How to Get More Dates With Shortcuts of Masters and Millionaires
Whether it's a date with that very nice-looking person over there,
obtaining a better job, or acquiring material things,
it's as if we
forget how effectively resourceful we are in emergencies.
We find more ways to do it, have it,and get it,
when our why is strong enough.
Some -- and only some -- of our fears and desires launch us into action.
It makes sense to use them more intentionally, doesn't it?.
More often than we'd expect, people show their best in the face of disaster affecting other people.
We're not quite as selfish as TV news reporters would have us believe. Fear and desire are big, big forces we tap into in emergencies. Let's use them for YOU to benefit
from quickly. You already know from experiences in your own life that when we have a strong enough 'why' we find more ways to get it done.
search and search and can't seem to find ways to do it,
we create new ways to do it.
You've done it many times when your back has been against the wall.
That's why, like every great thinker, we can work backwards and live it forwards. The fancy term is "reverse engineering;" where you simply take a finished result and back up, step by step
until arriving back at the startng line. It is so, so, so much faster than using trial and error. It cost nothing to open your mind. Only when we have a strong enough "why" for doing something do we take action.
Most people have every resource necessary to achieve their desires...
yet they >do not act upon those desires
until they have a strong enough reason for doing it, getting it, and enjoying it. Most often, they act when NOT acting will cause greater pain... in other words, because we have to. That's why we don't call the dentist
until it becomes unbearable. Only when there's a financial or other personally-distressing deadline do we buckle down and get busy.
Tell the truth: how many times have you had an urgent deadline suddenly thrust in your face, an unexpected expense or need that requires instant and equally urgent attention?
Most of us wait until the pain is unbearable before we call the dentist, right?
Too many times you've declared that you "just don't have the time to________." Pure and simple, that's a lie. Probably the most dangerous lie that you tell yourself and others.
Don't have time? What a crock. God forbid you needed dialysis starting tomorrow, three times per week, as my beloved Aunt Shirley had to tolerate for years. Her physical challenges never stopped her from a fantastically busy, fulfilled life.
With her husband, she raised two children who became doctors, and another who became a lawyer (Well, two out of three's not bad). She was New Jersey's busiest town clerk in a hundred years. P.T.A., Brownies, Boy Scouts, you name it, Aunt
Shirley never slowed down... and still managed to make time to spend twelve hours per week getting dialysis.
Just like the rest of us, she, and you, and I, do indeed have time for whatever we figure is
My question to you is,
yourself what you want, and then why you want it...
specifically what you'll get from it.
If you are willing to describe precisely what you want, and when; what you'll
get out of it; what's stopping you (obstacles), and then you break it into several smaller pieces, on paper, you'll find that you've taken the beginning steps that have been consciously or not-so-consciously taken by 5,200 extremely successful
human beings that I studied.
The only way it works is if you do it right now.
Can't do it after dinner. It really does have to be in the next few minutes.
That's half the secret. Just stop talking and close your eyes. With one or two long, repeat, looooong deep breaths, create that mental
video of what you most want in this life, and play that video in your mind for a mere minute or so, really a full minute. Tell me you're not smiling by the time a hundred seconds goes by.
FIFTY years of ideas and plans that 'just never worked out,' one old man was so offended by his first Social Security check, & the thought that "now the gov't is feeling sorry for me," he took that first check for $112 and tried to market an
idea he had. He wrote down the names of everyone who turned him down. Went so far from home he stopped going home! Traveled all across the USA, trying to find people to back him. A thousand and nine people turned him down, most of them ridiculing his
idea. After 4½ years of struggle, Harlan Sanders finally raised enough money to open his first Kentucky Fried Chicken. He knew what he wanted, and simply did not stop until he achieved it. This man is an excellent example that a "nobody" can become a
"somebody" when they have a written plan. Just like the financially destitute, failing paper cup salesman, FIFTY-FIVE years of age, who created, AFTER BEING FIRED from yet another job,
the MacDonalds Hamburger chain.
Excellence cannot occur accidentally. "If it is to be, it is up to me."
When we have a strong enough
we always and invariably provide pathways to it.
Within seconds of the moment that you understand how completely true this is, you are in possession of keys that fit the lock. Hey, this is YOUR life, and your
journey through it.
Allowing yourself to be blown about by external factors cannot be tolerated any longer.
Allowing yourself to be nothing more than a tool of the person who signs your paycheck has got to
come to its timely end. How long can the captain of a ship allow someone else to determine the course of that ship? Time is slipping by so much faster than you've been willing to acknowledge. Unlike the World Series, or World Soccer Cup, or NBA
Championships, Life does NOT contain any time-outs. The clock never stops ticking, and with every single tick and tock, we are all one tick and one tock closer to the our final reward. The question is, what reward are you going to receive? It's YOUR SHIP!! Be the captain!
Vince Lombardi was the 'winningest' coach of his generation and beyond. He lived his creed, and therefore has the right to teach us. He told us repeatedly that our rewards are in life are in direct
proportion to our commitment to excellence, no matter what human endeavor is undertaken.
What would make you so happy that you could see yourself fighting for it? If you don't go for it now, are you really foolish enough
to think you'll go for it tomorrow? History, including your own, tells us otherwise. Better create that video quickly, and put it in writing. That gorgeous object of your desire is unlikely to ask you for a date. So, if you want a date, you'd better ask.
See it in your mind's eye, create a video, and with the effort of a single minute, write down five ideas for what you'd consider to be a romantic date. Make it happen, or accept that it's not ever likely to happen.
See it! Write it! Ask for it!
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